Ok I have a lot of people coming to me with questions about the fact that maybe my hair texture and overall genetic makeup has apart to play with the things I do with my hair…. Erm can you stop it please…
My hair is beautiful because I take care of it…how dare you *side eye* lol There is NO SUCH THING, as GOOD HAIR as a given, to have quote un quote good hair simply translates as having healthy well cared for tresses! It is a myth. Good hair is something we are all born with…well to be fair some babies have to wait for their hair to grow in…but it doesn’t matter how pretty someones hair looks, for it to be good it has to be healthy…a lot of people associate good with size, length and or texture…this is not the case…there are a lot of people out there with all or some of these hair attributes…but their hair could be brittle…thinning or breaking not to mention split to such a degree they are afraid to deal with it because thanks to peoples definition of what good hair means, they would rather appear so than be.
Dispelling these archaic views will be the first step in your transition*. Trust me, a lot of friends and family may be about to say some horrid things, but you mustn’t let it discourage you. During my transition, I heard it all…Your hair too hard, its too coarse, looking like one a dem african tribals. Your hair look picky, comb your hair, i preferred you with straight hair…Hey Kunta Kinte… ¬_¬…. trust me I had it all and from the people I knew. As appreciative as some were of my efforts there were those who weren’t as forward sighted as I was.
My hair is type 4* or s* it is everything one would stereotypically expect from afro hair. I decided to transition using braid outs and up do’s. The result was amazingly gorgeous 😀 I finally had curly hair, in hair that never retained curls no matter what I did to it.
My transition lasted a total of three months…initially, I decided to transition for a year and then bc*…but, I am incredibly impatient and erm frugal? So three months into it after trying and failing to manage the two sections, I made the decision not to re-relax and cut off 5 inches of relaxed hair. A week later I managed to convince my best friends to fix my hack job and the final 3 inches of relaxed hair was removed.
One of the things that kept me going was the fact that my best friend, who might I point out has a completely different texture to my own hair, had just ended her transitioning phase not too long ago and was there to encourage me and offer advice on everything…except patience lol (thanks Lisa). Having a hair buddy really helps. If no one close to you is going through or has been through this phase, just hit Google and make some new hair friends…like everything there will be negatives and positives so please keep this in mind whilst entering the natural hair community.
Today’s question…My roots are really hard and noticeably different from the straighter section of my hair, how can I make it softer and blend?
May I suggest, co-washing? Doing
I co washed once a week with fructis garnier (they were cheap) I bought ones for frizz, shine, strength and moisture…and used them depending on what my hair needed or mixed them to create different properties? lol call me hunii the alchemist 😀
NB: I cowashed once a week because I only combed or detangled my hair when it was wet and saturated with conditioner.
Many shampoos contain sulphates which strips afro hair follicles causing them to become dry and brittle…therefore shampooing frequently, is ill advised. I have found that co washing within reason, as in within your own reasoning , helps you to retain to become
I used African Pride leave in tonic/conditioner…the watery one.
Coconut oil, Glycerin mixed with water …can’t remember if that was before or after bc
Glycerin and water all on soaking wet just washed hair.
Then proceeded to braid into 6/7 cornrows to the back.
Then undid before I left the house or finger style and brushed into an updo..
the results…great for everyday styling, a funky look or an afrocentric style.